My Insecurities Can Eat Me Alive.

Insecurities are somethings that live with us always. The fear that we are not good enough knocks our door from time to time. Nothing holds you back more than your own insecurities. Your confined by the walls you build yourself. Confidence is silent but insecurities are loud. This desire to be everything to everyone and the subsequent fear of not being “good enough” is pervasive, especially among women. And I’ve personally seen it manifesting itself not only in our professional lives, but in our personal lives as well. There’s no denying that it’s detrimental to our personal and professional progress, to our relationships, and most importantly, to our love for and confidence in ourselves.

Sometimes this feeling of insecurities is weak but sometimes it’s so strong that it completely takes away everything that is good in us that could completely destroy us. It takes you to the dark path where you would do anything to make yourself feel good and that often destroy every good thing you own. I am a very confident person but some days when things don’t go right my insecurities takes a toll. Like everyone, to hide my insecurities I put on mask of arrogance, wear higher heels so I am tall enough or shorter dress to prove I am sexy enough or put on more makeup to be beautiful enough and make other people inferior to make myself superior enough and  cramped my loved ones so I am loved enough. But none of these makes me feel any better. Sometimes it’s like I can’t stay strong. I break down and cry and have negative thoughts. Sometimes our thoughts are so backed up by insecurities that we create lies we believe.

Emotional security is the measure of the stability of an individual’s emotional state. Emotional insecurity or simply insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be vulnerable or inferior in some way, or a sense of vulnerability or instability which threatens one’s self-image or ego.
Everyone has their own insecurities regardless of how you look or how people perceive you but sometimes people give theirs insecurities too much power defining beauty is simply a matter of opinion beauty has little to with structure of someone face or body.

The Internet brings on a lot of this pressure because there’s a constant barrage of someone doing more. Someone being better. Someone giving more. It’s exhausting. I think social media plays a huge factor in making women feel like they must be absolutely perfect all of the time. It’s so much easier to compare yourself to others’ seemingly perfect lives and get sucked into a rabbit hole of comparison, self-doubt, and shame

So, what then? How do we move past this fear? We can’t just forever avoid the siren song of Us Weekly and Instagram. Once we recognize our feelings of inadequacy and we’ve pinpointed the source of our insecurity, the struggle is undoubtedly real. We can change that.Be honest and encouraging. If we were all a little bit more transparent about our lives, about our fears, about where we feel we’re falling short we must realise we are only humans and not Superman. We might better understand that we all struggle with this, we’re all through this and it is common and we are no different and not less or not more capable.

Be proud of yourself. You are far wiser than the mistakes you’ve made. You are far better than the moments you wish you could do differently. You are worth more inside and out than you give yourself credit for. All of us are.

YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH….