Love Yourself…

Love yourself! The one person who is always there for/with you is YOU. Don’t make him/her your enemy. The way you view yourself is important. If you hate your personality and looks you’re never happy. Just make peace with the mirror and then watch the reflection change. You need to set aside time for to work on your confidence it’s hard to change thoughts you had for years. Life is all about blessing in disguise. Success doesn’t need a plan sometimes you have to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens. And believe and preach this five infographics.


“Eventually our pain will go away our mistakes will be forgiven our hearts will mend and our mind will find peace.”

Dont underestimate your own abilities to handle the issue at hand. Although your problem may seem like a ticking time bomb at the time it hits, time really does heal many wounds. Even if, like me, time can’t heal you, it does have a way of making things seem less scary as it passes. Each new heartbreak is the equivalent of tearing open long healed wounds; the seams are strong but not impenetrable. They’ll bleed, but not forever. And when they do heal again, the wounds will scar over tougher than before.

And let’s not rule out completely acceptable remedies to life’s unfairness such as ice cream and Doritos. Paired with a good friend and rom-coms, they just may do the trick.




“There always be an obstacle but that’s how we learn to drive and which road to avoid. Nothing will ever go the way we want it to but that doesn’t mean he headed in the wrong direction. Sometimes a change in direction leads to a special way.”

Life can be unfair in an infinite number of ways, and as human beings we are susceptible to feeling pretty down when it is. Maybe you’ve been diagnosed with an incurable disease, or you just have a bad case of the flu, you got called into work on your one day off, or you’ve been denied your dream job. In these cases when life has truly wronged us, should we just suck it up? I don’t think so.

Maybe we are built to be affected by tragedy. Maybe our hearts, just like all our other muscles, are meant to be broken down and reconfigured, time and time again. Maybe this is how they grow into greater, more magnanimous versions of themselves.

You ruin your future when you refuse to see the possibilities currently in front of you. When you become so transfixed with what went wrong, with how you used to be, that you are suddenly incapable of seeing anything else. We all have moments when we romanticize the past. There’s a beauty in our nostalgia. We like to just remember the good. We choose the best snapshots. It’s easier that way, to just gloss over the bleak parts.

Life is an unpredictable beast. You might be shocked with how she surprises you.


“If we stop doing things we are scared of we won’t be doing much. Fear is the part of the life and only thing to get over it is to go ahead and do what scares us especially if it brings closer to the life we want to live.”

You need to be braver than you. It doesn’t come easily or comfortably. You have to be willing to size up uncomfortable situations, recognize that you’re going to feel a bit out of your league while engaging in them, and then make the conscious choice to engage in them anyway. You have to learn to disconnect from that part of yourself that tells you, ‘No, stop, retreat.’ You have to barrel on despite it. You have to act in a way that is in conscious and deliberate defiance of your fears.




“Don’t stay at a job you hate don’t marry someone you don’t love don’t stay be someone who belittle you. Life can be good if we chose not to settle on things that’s impending our happiness
There will be more. So much more.”

Don’t settle for anything less than excitement and jumping beans in the pit of your stomach. Nothing less than forever. Nothing less than knowing, beyond on a doubt that this is love.You deserve someone who will smile at your silly jokes, who will kiss your forehead when you’ve had a long day, and who will absentmindedly reach for your hand across the center console when he’s driving, just because he wants to feel your fingers twisted with his.

Because I promise, you’ll find it. And it will be more beautiful than you ever imagined.

To My Fellow Women and Men too, Please Don’t settle

Not in a job you hate, not in a town where you don’t feel at home, not with friendships that aren’t real, and especially, especially not with love.


“We are never alone in our struggles we will always find people who want to be there for us and support us and genuinely love us. Sometimes we think we are alone but that’s just our mind tricking us into thinking life is harder than it is supposed to be.”

Because it’s often in moments of solitude where you realize just how not alone you are. In fact, when you take a moment to be intentionally alone, to absorb everything through the sole filter of your perception, you understand that life is filled with people and things who accompany you. There is a confidence that comes from being alone, a happiness in the more simple pleasures that often go unnoticed when we are distracted by the presence and opinions of others. The crusty bread crackles in your ear when you tear a piece off. The steam from the coffee hits the tip of your nose as you put it to your lips. The small conversations that happen with the man you buy your produce from, or the girl let ahead of you on the subway, all become a kind of warm blanket of confirmation and life. The chatter around you can fill you up with varying degrees of comprehension, tuning in and out when it suits you. You are miles away from alone.

And it is perhaps this that it is most beautiful, most necessary about aloneness. It is realizing that what you’ve always feared, what you’ve always heard such horror stories about, isn’t being alone. It’s not “dying alone,” as if that were even a concrete concept. It’s all of the things that can lead to aloneness, it is the heartbreak whose pain we want to pawn off on the moments we’re sitting by ourselves in front of our stereo listening to the same song over and over again. The pain in loneliness comes from all that surrounds it, not the act itself. And when you spend enough quality time alone, you realize that it is indeed nothing to fear. You realize that you, by yourself, are happy and are confirmed in life and worth by everything around you. And though it will not take the edge off of the painful few moments that lead to us being alone, it is worth reminding ourselves that just because we’re eating alone at a restaurant doesn’t mean we aren’t in wonderful company.

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71 thoughts on “Love Yourself…

  1. girlwhofearedoblivion,
    wow, that’s really creative!!! And I loved your homepage… It was just thrilling 🙂

    I read the post about time as a healer. Nice one!!! And I think there are no wounds that will heal completely. Scars and memories will always remain there…. but yes, the building up of character taking place during the struggle is what makes us the person we are and is what really matters!!!
    BTW, thanks for visiting my blog 🙂
    Happy writing!!!

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  2. Hello fellow-blogger,
    I popped by to thank you for following me.
    I so enjoyed reading the wisdom and encouragement of this post. Excellent! And judging by the good number of comments the post has provoked, there are many others who feel likewise.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and positive perspective.

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  3. Love your post! I also echo your thoughts on dying alone — there is no such thing. Steve Jobs said in his Stanford commencement speech “…death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent.” I think death is natural, and the sooner people get that, the sooner we can live our lives.

    You write really well, and you have a lot of great examples I want to emulate in my writing. Good job and I’ll be following.

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  4. Thank you, that’s a nice article and I am respectful, kind and helpful to everyone I meet. I find people are becoming more selfish and self-centered in this day and age, I choose my friends carefully now. There are so many people out there to take advantage of a kind heart, it makes me sad. Thank you for following me by the way, my stories are true. I hope to share my families true story here, I will be using information from my ancestors and old pictures that I have collected, no links.

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  5. This is great! I especially like the Doritos and ice cream inserts, these do prove to be very good short term remedies, and it made me laugh in the midst of soaking up the great words of wisdom 🙂 instilling laughter too can help heal, thank you!

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  6. Great post, but I’m not sure I agree with the idea that time heals everything, nor do I think it would be a good thing if it could.
    I believe that we need to carry the scars caused by traumatic or emotionally painful events in our lives, (without letting them influence our ability to enjoy all the good things in life) because these are the events and feelings that make us who we are and it is only by recalling the pain of those earlier mistakes that allow us to grow into better, more successful people.

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    1. Fantastic. This is inspiring to read and speaks so much truth. They’re all maybe cliches at this point but there is a reason for that, time keeps changing, and with change we heal and become better people. The one thing I’d like to bring up, though, I dont know if it belongs here but it feels right, and that is also when you feel sad or low, it is most commonly the ‘cliche’ things that do work. Routine, journal, exercise, but most importantly loving a other people, and receiving it. Its easy to talk about loving but it can be harder acting out on it sometimes. We tend to put it into boxes, make people prove their worth to us, as opposed to just showing love. Keep writing and keep well.

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      1. Thank you. And I agree. Loving others respecting others is so important. Being vulnerable to other person feelings is important. Demeaning each other wouldn’t get us anywhere. Kindness should be the new trend.


    2. I agree with your point about how we need to carry the scars and learn from them, but at the same time I feel that time does heal in the sense that the pain caused by the trauma lessens at least a bit with the passing of time. Other things come up as time passes, and we end up being more preoccupied those things than with our pain. So that’s why I feel that time can help the pain fade into the background, I guess.

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  7. Your comments are very insightful; and I am certain they will be helpful to many people.

    The truth is that, to experience life, one must suffer. Everyone who is alive feels pain. Everyone who is alive grieves over losing a loved one. And everyone will experience their own personal problems and illnesses over the course of their lifetime.

    But that is not to say that life is bad — just the opposite. We feel pain to allow us to feel even greater joys and happiness. We grieve as a way to heighten love and compassion. Each breath we breathe in sickness allows us to glory in those we take in good health.

    Do not hold on to those things that are fleeting: youth, beauty, material possessions. We are beautiful at every age, shape and size. We are young if we feel that way inside. Hold onto what matters: people. Share love every day. Extend a hand to others to make the difficult journey a bit easier.

    And in the end, love always wins.

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